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review The Art of Forgiving Ó eBook or Kindle ePUB ↠ [PDF / Epub] ☄ The Art of Forgiving By Lewis B. Smedes – Lewis Smedes writes about forgiveness like no one has ever written about it before There is no better book in the English language about this subject which if properly mastered can change the fNates step by step the healing path to peace and freedom  Altogether a wonderfully wise and enabling book one of Smedes's very best The Art of Forgiving is itself a work of art Throughout my reading I found myself exclaiming 'That never occurred to me but yes that's right' I felt as if I were being led by an extraordinarily lucid and perceptive guide on a tour through the land of forgiveness     Nicholas Woltersdorff   Professor of Philosophical Theology  The Divinity School Yale Universi. Very simple It gives great tips for forgiveness and does a great job of distinguishing between forgiveness and reconciliation Just because you forgive does not mean that the person should be given the same status they previously had in your life

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Forgiveness Gods own gift within the capacity of every wounded person even in circumstances when only hate seems possible With inspiring words he leads you through the three stages of forgiveness and helps you understandWhy we forgive often the person who benefits most is the forgiver What we do when we forgive perhaps not what we expect Whom we forgive only those who directly wrong usHow we forgive we start by owning our pain  Using many dramatic examples drawn from life this wise author illumi. My favorite part of this book was how we didn't have to accept what the person was doing We didn't have to let them be part of our lives They still had to be accountable for their actions We aren't letting them off the hook We are letting ourselves off the hook We bring peace to our own lives We don't waste one minute worrying about something we have no control over I also liked that we felt hurt because when someone hurts us it makes us feel like we don't have value When in fact we all have value When we let go of the hurt and anger and forgive it isn't really about the other person any

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The Art of ForgivingLewis Smedes writes about forgiveness like no one has ever written about it before There is no better book in the English language about The Art Epubthis subject which if properly mastered can change the face of human relationships   Neil Clark Warren              Author of The Triumphant Marriage and Make Anger Your AllyIf you are ready to make peace with those who have hurt or betrayed you there can be no finer road map than this thoroughly practical book Lewis Smedes brings true. We make forgiving sound so easy “Just forgive them and move on” It’s not uite that simple most of the time Lewis Smedes gives us a 1 2 3 step approach to forgiving while saying that sometimes forgiveness is not the right answerTo forgive someone you need to first rediscover their humanity When someone hurts us they become only what they did to us They become an abuser an adulterer a liar when in truth they are much than that We need to remember that they’re not evil incarnate They’re human and here’s a newsflash so am I I make mistakes and I hurt people too The second step to forgiving them is when we surrender our right to get even Revenge is on our minds but we have to put it away Revenge is our pleasure at seeing the one who hurt us feel pain We’re supposed to bring joy peace and love not pain The third step to forgiveness is revising your feelings Forgiveness is a decision a tough decision sometimes but a decision nonetheless You can decide to stop hating the person You can decide to start praying for good things to happen to them and while you may not mean those prayers yet your feelings will eventually follow your wordsDid you know that forgiveness is not the solution we should reach for every time someone hurts us We have to make sure we were hurt by an individual We can’t forgive a nameless entity We can only forgive individuals so we need to figure out who it was that hurt us It also needs to be an action that hurt us I can’t forgive someone for who they are I can only forgive them for what they do I can’t forgive someone for being a liar I can forgive them for lying to me though I try to improve their character but I can’t forgive their character only their actions Forgiveness is also only for serious wounds People hurt us everyday I’ve been offended by the box I order my Big Mac on before I can’t forgive the person that was rude to me though because that’s not a forgivable offense Forgivable offenses are offenses that result in me hating the person that hurt me We can also only forgive someone for wronging us If you’re in prison for murder you’re in pain but not wrongful pain You got what you deserved I can only forgive someone if they wrongfully hurt me There must be a betrayal involvedYou also need to know that just because you forgive someone does not mean that you necessarily allow them to return to the spot they occupied in your life prior to the betrayal Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean reconciliation although it certainly can Also a person doesn’t have to ask for our forgiveness for us to give it You may be saying “That’s not right They’ve got to show some remorse” Now you’re talking about reconciliation To be reconciled to a person they would need to show remorse for their actions and how they hurt you At that point and only that point could you be reconciled to them It’s your decision What about a person that doesn’t show remorse You can still forgive them They don’t even have to ask for it Because forgiving them isn’t about them it’s about you That hate you’re keeping in your heart over how they hurt you will seep out of the little hole you’ve put it in and it will start to effect other parts of your life When you forgive them you let go of that hate and you can begin to flourish again If you hold on to the hate you feel you’re just letting them continue to hurt you If that person had beaten you so badly that you had to stay in the hospital for a few weeks but all of a sudden you realized you had the power to heal those wounds and take the pain away wouldn’t you We’re talking about the same thing here only the wounds are internalThere’s so much Smedes says but there’s not room for all his advice here There are several things he said that I’m going to need time to chew over but this has been the most helpful book I’ve ever read on forgiveness